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Acceptance. Such an easy concept to implement to achieve happiness, but such a complicated one indeed.
I understand every part of acceptance, and at one point in life, practiced it for personal healing. Acceptance is a (if I’m allowed to say), a way of pursuing life to the greatest contentment, and achieve true happiness. As a curious dramatic young grasshopper, I aimed so much for that inner peace that comes along as a result of acceptance. Not that there’s anything wrong with practicing acceptance. It’s a concept of being fully present at a current situation, comprehending it, understanding it, and receiving it’s consequences with no objections. Acceptance is like meditation; you sit and let thoughts flow in and out of your head, no matter bad or good.
How does easy and complicated co-exist in a concept like acceptance? I’ve always believed that humans are lucky and unlucky in a way that you are psychosocially connected to your surroundings. There’s a bloody string that ties you with everyone else, and sometimes it could transform into the lightest thread, or a heavy metal chain. But I do believe, the path to spiritual freedom gets hindered by that one annoying thing called responsibility. The less responsibility you acquire, the easier the spiritual freedom you get. Responsibility is like the heavy chain that makes acceptance, complicated.
“But if you’re responsible, then you must accept your responsibility! Then only you can be happy!” Said a friend to me last night over our ten ringgit tall frappuccino from Starbucks (got offer, until 8PM only lah). Walao! So easy to say! He continued, “but of course, I’m not in your shoes, so I don’t know how it really feels, lah.” Okaylah.
I don’t think responsibility is a choice either, because it is (especially when demanded by the Holy Book of many religions out there which revolves around the same translation of “aiyoh, you are responsible for your parents and family until you die, only then you can go to Heaven lah!”) That is, if you’re not an atheist, but even atheists carries a heavier responsibilities sometimes. Then again, acceptance plays a role. Acceptance is it. It lightens the burden on your shoulder, the weight that ties you from your own desires and spiritual freedom.
Now that we mentioned desires. Hah! Kan true happiness also means free from all desires? Again, walao, suddenly everything so spiritual! Then again, without desires, how far will you go? How well will you utilize your talent and energy for something fantastic for the universe if you have zero desires? It’s only human that we all have desires. But does that also meant that no human will ever achieve true happiness?
In the end, I finally accepted that the ‘true happiness’ does not apply unless you’re willing to sacrifice ambitions and responsibilities one hundred percent. And that’s the thing about ‘true happiness’. It doesn’t exist as a destination, but it exists as a part of life. It’s not like, “oh, I want true happiness so I have to work hard towards achieving it!” Nope, it doesn’t work that way. Remember the last time you sat with an old friend and reminisce good things? Or when your bae said ‘good morning’ this morning? Or when your paycheck is finally in? Or when you bought the book you really wanted for so long? When PosLaju arrived with the nonsense you bought from Lazada? Or when you dived and saw a turtle resting on the seabed? How do you feel? Happy? Now, weren’t those ‘true happiness’? Takkanlah those are ‘fake happiness’ kan?
Acceptance is truly a way to happiness, and it doesn’t mean twenty-four hours happiness either. It’s okay to have acceptance and be sad once in a while, for sadness balances every other elements in life. Quoting the same friend, “can be sad once in a while lah, life is full of ups and downs, just don’t let the negativity dictate your life.”